Work Less. Live More.

Childhood adaptations. Adult limitations.

In this episode I share how childhood adaptations become maladaptive in adulthood. The way we learn to cope with caregivers that aren't meeting our need to be whole can look like what we call self sabotage and limiting beliefs in adulthood. However they are maladaptive coping strategies and protection mechanisms.

 

These patterns of behaviour can make out attempts to grow and develop our businesses feel like a threat and trigger our learnt survival responses.

 

Ultimately these things limit our ability to develop self-belief - our beliefs shape our reality.

 

On Friday 23rd September I will be teaching a masterclass about the skill of self belief and practical ways to create new beliefs at my Embody Your Future NOW mini virtual retreat - plus a whole lot more.

 

Details here [LINK]

 

Connect with me on instagram [LINK]

Find out how to work with me [LINK]

Being your whole radiant self.

Welcome to this beautifully nourishing conversation with Jazreena Harlow on being your radiant self.

 

In this episode Jazreena and I talk about the importance of allowing ourselves to be held, why representation matters and how we are all part of a collective whole.

 

We also talk about being soft and how complex it can be when you are a Black woman. We also explore the significant energy required to go against your conditioning to heal and do things in a new way.

 

Jazreena is an Inner radiance and self connection coach. She is a multi passionate creative who uses a dynamic mix of modalities  (sound alchemy, human design and brand creatrix). The aim is to inspire you to step into the core essence of who you are, to live in full expression with vibrancy and truth. Jaz utilises sound healing and human design to help you feel safe enough to meet yourself in truth work and how you’re here to shine.

 

At the beginning of the episode I shared some information about my, 'Essensual flow' workshop and guided meditation. You can find information here [LINK].

 

You can connect with Jazreena here:

Website

Instagram

Breath, balm and brunch day retreat

Heart talk with Sas Petherick on being present.

Welcome to the first Conversations From The Heart: Heart Talk where I have the opportunity to have a heartfelt conversation with a wonderful guest.

 

Conversations From The Heart: Heart Talk, begins with a body scan (you can join in too if it is safe for you to do so). The conversation is guided by whatever comes up in the moment for my guest. There are no interview questions, no set script and hardly any editing. Pauses and process time - the things that make us human are deliberately left untouched.

 

In a fast-paced world of expeditious efficiency and trying to do things in the shortest time possible I offer an oasis. 

 

An oasis where there is no race to hot takes or intensity. Our conversations take the time they take and my guests and I have space to be our perfectly imperfect human selves. 

 

Today I am joined by my friend and resplendent human being, Sas Petherick for my first heart-led conversation.

 

In this conversation, Sas and I talk about sisterhood, discernment and the precious care friendship and being a friend requires.

 

We talk about the elusive nature of being present and how easily we take it for granted even though it's all we have. Sas' connection to her heart via our body scan made the preciousness of now even more apparent as she had a serious heart condition that could have had a fatal impact. Sas' tender heart reminds her of the importance of being here now and returning whenever she ventures into the past or future for too long.

 

We talk about the enforced stillness of the pandemic and lessons thrust upon us by having to sit in our aloneness and begin to claim who we are. Sas shares why she is excited about this possibility.

 

We also get geeky and talk about academic stuff we love!

 

This is a really gentle conversation, I hope it offers you some comfort.

 

A bit about Sas:

Sas Petherick is obsessed with helping you heal your self-doubt. Sas is a Master Coach and Founder of Self-belief School and the Self-belief Coaching Academy where she teaches evidence-based approaches and proven coaching tools. Sas hosts the Courage and Spice podcast for humans with Self-doubt. You’ll find Sas on The Gram: @saspetherick.

 

Also, I am excited to share that my new hybrid life and business coaching programme Emancipate your business is open for enrollment now. 

 

Your business has its own life force energy that needs to be emancipated from your unmet needs so that it has enough space to serve YOU as well as your gorgeous community.

I want to help you create a life and business that puts you and your needs at the centre. No more hiding unmet needs in business strategy that makes anxiety an unconscious (toxic) productivity tool.

 

Your success does not need to deplete you. Book a no-pressure, complimentary call here [LINK] to see if this programme will be of service to you.

Power & Self-Care

I've been having thoughts about how power impacts self-care and how I would like to help change this experience with my new immersive hybrid life and business group coaching programme, Emancipate Your Business for details click here [LINK].

Acknowledging your courage.

I wrote some words to share with the wonderful humans in my Sovereign group coaching programme as they are doing such courageous work to create more helpful ways of being.

 

Then I thought about some of the issues in the world right now and how they can distance us from how courageous we are being as we journey towards healing our inner relationships. So I thought I would share these words with you too.

 

Thank you for the inspiration Sovereign queens. I see you and honour you.

The safety of connection

Another day another podcast!

 

Today I am talking about the difference between the protective pattern of attachment that enables us to survive and connection that allows us to feel safe.

 

At the end I asked these questions:

What does safety mean to you?

What does safety feel like in your body? What sensations tell you you’re safe, where do you feel them?

Who are you with when you feel these sensations of safety?

Where are you when you feel them?

What are you doing?

 

I mention Sadie Tichelaar, Gabriella Espinonsa the Non-Linear Movement Method, Billy Ocean. 

 

I also mention my Sovereign group coaching experience which is open for enrolment until Friday 17th December 2021. Details here.

Witness the bigness

I have had a number of conversations with women about struggling to find a coach, mentor, therapist that can hold their 'bigness'.

 

These are often sensitive women, even though they may not view themselves that way. They tend to have big energy, big feelings, big emotions, big views, big wisdom, big power but don't know how to hold and channel it. This is usually because we are conditioned to play small and not be too much.

 

This feeds into feeling like you are simultaneously too much and not enough. As such this can create an environment where people say that they were unable to work with whichever helping professional because they couldn't handle how big they are.

 

However, when I think about my life experience and coaching practice what I think is happening is that people with big feelings etc are under-skilled and unable to hold their power as they, like most of us have been conditioned to play small.

 

As such, they unconsciously make other people responsible for their bigness. This way they can unconsciously blame others and their confirmation bias confirms that they are beyond being supported because they are indeed too much and not enough. Hyper-independence and loneliness prevails and the cycle repeats.

 

I can help unravel this and support you to learn how to take care of your needs so that you feel grounded and strong enough to be a conduit for your power rather than burned by it.

 

Explore working with me here [LINK], lets make 2022 a power-full one.

The fear of what we desire most.

I am back with a rebranded podcast. Today I am exploring fearing what we desire most and how this can lead to self-abandonment.

"Abandoning ourselves to care for others makes us lonely and reduces our capacity to truly give and receive love. It’s a pattern that’s incredibly hard to identify because it is a sophisticated shapeshifter that can provide immediate gratification and at times makes us feel righteous".

 

I invite you to join me in providing an olive branch to hurts we have internalised by engaging in an exercise to offer healing to a (light) wound from the past.

 

Big up to my friends Cee and Sareta who inspired me to stop waiting to restart my podcast when I listened to their new podcast, "Women Who Rebrand"

 

I mentioned Peter Levine, listen to him talk about trauma here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s1RnTipiU_Q

 

Connect with me on Social media here.

 

My life-changing group coaching programme Sovereign is open for enrolment until 10/12/21. Find out more here.

Three Sixty Conversations with Kate Taylor on living a BIG BOLD BEAUTIFUL life.

This podcast was recorded in June my pandemic inability showed up in my podcast hence the 6-month delay!

 

Anyway, today I am sharing a nourishing chat with my darling Kate Taylor. Kate is a sparkling disco ball in human form.

 

In this episode, Kate talks about living a satiating BIG BOLD BEAUTIFUL LIFE and feeling into your expansiveness.

Kate is a lover of disco balls, a bright red lip and more leopard print than is necessary, she isn’t your average coach. She’s a leading life design and empowerment coach, creative business coach & mentor, Master NLP practitioner & clinical hypnotherapist, Qoya teacher, writer, speaker and creator of the Practical Magic Activation Deck — the UK’s first life coach in a box. And more recently, organiser of The Awakening — a festival dedicated to wellness and self-care on the Isle of Wight.

 

She’s also the creator of the popular Practical Magic Podcast where each week she shares wisdom and interviews with special guests from the worlds of creativity, wellness and modern spirituality.

 

 

 

Journal prompts from Kate:

What am I here to do?  When I feel into that, where am I most alive?

How does it feel to be in expansion?

 

Keep up with Kate:

The Expansion Academy

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Facebook

Website

Three Sixty Conversations with Nicky Clinch on answering the call of life.

Welcome to episode 91. I am joined by Nicky Clinch, Maturation Coach & Facilitator, Spiritual Mentor, CEO & Entrepreneur. Her mission in life is to help people break free of the confines of their past traumas, self-defeating patterns and suffering so that they can realise, and come home to, who they truly are.

 

Nicky shares how maturation supports us to be present with and heal trauma so that the wounded stop inflicting wounds on the wounded.

 

We speak candidly on how this work helps people dismantle racism, become actively anti-racist and close the gap on separation.

 

There are many mic drop moments in this conversation about the messiness that is coming home to alignment.

 

Full show notes including resources and people mentioned here.